Due to their introverted, and exceedingly quiet nature, it is often tough to get a read on whether an ISTP is in love. They often keep those feelings quite hidden, only showing them when they become far more confident around the person that they love.
However, ISTPs can’t hide it all. If you know what you are looking for, it can be very easy to tell when an ISTP is starting to fall in love. On this page, we want to share the 7 signs that an ISTP is in love.
Do ISTPs Fall in Love Easily?
ISTPs often take a while to fall in love. Most ISTPs prefer to remain independent, and they are very local in the way that they think. They are not going to fall in love with somebody unless they have considered every aspect of what it means to fall in love with a person.
So, if you are with an ISTP (or you are an ISTP yourself), bear in mind that it may take a while for genuine love to develop. However, rest assured, as long as your ISTP is with you, they will be carefully analyzing everything, attempting to determine whether you are the right partner for them.
Do ISTPs Ever Commit?
ISTPs often avoid commitment. Even if they say that they are committed to a person, their opinion can change on a whim. This is because of the ISTP’s desire to remain independent as much as possible, as well as their desire to think logically about a situation. If something makes it appear as if their selected partner isn’t right for them, then they can be very quick to move on rather than work through the situation.
They Ask Thoughtful Questions
One of the first signs that an ISTP is falling for you is if they start to ask far more thoughtful questions about who you are as a person.
ISTPs are not really huge fans of getting to know others. By nature, they are incredibly independent people. In fact, we reckon that an ISTP probably wouldn’t get on with most people. They simply do not care to know others as they are far, far more content with being around themselves.
As soon as an ISTP gives you the opportunity to open up and talk to them, you know that they are attempting to analyze whether you are the right partner to commit to. They will want to know about all of your perks and all of your foibles.
It may take a few weeks before an ISTP even considers getting to know you on a deeper level. Before that, most of the questions they ask may be much more superficial in nature.
They Love To Help You Through Your Problems
Because ISTPs are incredibly logical thinkers, they are often seen as problem solvers. For an ISTP, there is no problem that they cannot fix once they put their mind to it.
An ISTP will often solve their own problems, and they are tremendous at troubleshooting. They will rarely attempt to get involved with the problems of others.
Once an ISTP starts to offer helpful advice (and very logical advice), on anything difficult that you may be facing in your life, then you know that your ISTP may be falling for you. In fact, they are probably going to be falling for you hard.
Do bear in mind that this can be a bit overbearing, at times. When an ISTP has its heart set on fixing a problem, it will do everything it can to fix it. So, if you are not happy with that, you may want to give your ISTP a bit of a nudge and say that isn’t OK.
They Regularly Give Small Gifts That They Know You’ll Appreciate
A lot of people don’t know this about ISTPs, but they do love to give small gifts to the people that they care about the most.
You are not really going to get big, extravagant gifts from your ISTP. Instead, they are going to listen to what you say and try to gift you something that has a practical usage. For example, if they have heard that a certain brand of chocolate is known for perking you up, then they will get you that. If they know that you need a certain tool for your hobby, they will get you that.
The more an ISTP falls for you, the more of these gifts you can expect.
They Share More About Themselves – Particularly The Bad Parts
Once again, we have to go back to the fact that ISTPs are very independent people. Not only are they not huge fans of listening to other people and their issues, they are not huge fans of sharing their own problems. In fact, they love to keep to themselves.
Once an ISTP is much more confident in sharing things about themselves, especially the bad parts in their history, you know they are falling for you.
Don’t expect to get huge amounts of information from them, even when you are a full-blown relationship. However, you will get small bits and pieces, and you should feel appreciative knowing that even the smaller things like this are going to be incredibly difficult for an ISTP to share.
They Will Want To Do Activities With You
ISTPs are content to do things on their own. In fact, they love to do things on their own. So, you know that an ISTP is in love if they start to include you in the activities that they are doing. They may start to invite you to experience their hobbies, or to go on more and more dates.
It is almost as if the ISTP is starting to make you part of themselves. When you are in love with a person, you’ll start to see each other as one and the same. This is the ISTP’s way of showing this.
They’ll Test Your Commitment
This is one of the ‘worst’ traits an ISTP can have when they are falling in love.
ISTPs will rarely commit, and when they do commit, they only want to commit to those who have demonstrated that they want the ISTP around.
So, some ISTPs (and those in relationships with ISTPs) have reported that an ISTP can be very ‘testing’. They will push those they care about away, hoping that they come crawling back. If they don’t, the ISTP is fine. They’ll start to feel that the person isn’t good enough to have around.
They’ll Let You Into Their Personal Space
An ISTP will rarely get affectionate with other people. They love their personal space. If you find that an ISTP is inviting you into their personal space, particularly on a more intimate level, then you know that they are falling for you.
Final Thoughts
So, how do ISTPs show love and affection? Well, they show it by opening up to a person. They invite those closest to them into their personal space, and the ISTP will be more likely to share any problems they are having (particularly the worst ones). An ISTP is never going to fall in love easily, though. So, if you are in a new relationship with an ISTP, don’t expect them to be ‘there’ quite yet.
Reference Sources
https://www.typematchapp.com/istp-relationships/ https://personality-central.com/personality-types/istp-in-love/
