ESTJs are direct and motivated; they’re natural leaders who function excellently in a system. However, these traits also make them stubborn and wary of change – despite being in the spotlight so often, they can be formidable conversation partners. So, do ESTJs like attention?
Like most people, ESTJs enjoy attention but do not crave it or rely on it. Although they are independent and enjoy strict routines, they nevertheless value their attention from family and friends. ESTJs also appreciate being able to lead groups efficiently, requiring people to focus on them.
Now that we know that ESTJs – like other extroverts – appreciate the attention, we can look into how they use that attention. We’ll also discuss how Executives handle themselves in the spotlight and how they use conversation.
Do ESTJs Enjoy Being The Center of Attention?
ESTJs enjoy being the center of attention. This type is charismatic and inspired, so being the group’s focus comes naturally to them.
They’re also natural leaders; ESTJs aren’t uncomfortable speaking in public or performing for others. Furthermore, Executives also see it as their duty to motivate others and keep them productive.
Since ESTJs also love their work, they like being the center of attention there. Although not all Executives in the workplace are literal corporate executives, many are nevertheless managers or essential team players.
So, ESTJs appreciate it when their colleagues listen to them and understand the plan they need to follow. Because ESTJs crave clarity and straightforwardness, they enjoy a chance to explain and teach others.
Similarly, this type cares intensely about their loved ones. While ESTJs are devoted to their work, they’re also fiercely devoted to their friends and family.
So, they love to spend time with these people and encourage them. That, of course, means they’ll have their attention. And while ESTJs are not the most talkative or needy, they genuinely enjoy it when their loved ones focus on them.
The same rule applies to romantic relationships. ESTJs appreciate being listened to by their partner more than most would. That’s because ESTJs are natural problem solvers, so the opportunity to straightforwardly discuss a problem is one that they won’t pass up.
When Do ESTJs Dislike Attention?
However, Executives are creatures of habit. Without a proper plan to follow, an ESTJ can quickly become nervous.
This type hates to let others down and relies on schedules and traditions to succeed. So, even though they’re typically confident around people, ESTJs hate being unprepared. In that case, they might try to avoid attention until they can find a way forward.
So, an ESTJ dislikes attention when it means they might let others down or fail a task. It is not an ego thing for them – Executives can be surprisingly humble. Instead, because they care so intensely about progress, they hate being in situations where they’re underqualified.
ESTJs also don’t enjoy being the center of attention when they have to discuss uncomfortable subjects. At the same time, that’s true for everyone, but it’s especially apparent for Executives.
This type hates having to introspect or speak emotionally. These aren’t an ESTJ’s dominant functions and often seem to distract them. So, they’d prefer not to have to discuss these topics.
Furthermore, it’s nearly impossible to schedule emotions or plan feelings. So, ESTJs struggle to fall back on routines or traditions in those situations.
ESTJs In Conversation
ESTJs like attention, but one of the most critical aspects is handling conversation properly. Outside of performances, attention means that you’ll need to speak. So, how good are ESTJs when talking?
Are ESTJs Talkative?
Although they’re extroverts, ESTJs are not incredibly talkative. They generally dislike talking about abstract concepts, emotions, or anything else that takes away from productivity.
Similarly, since they’re so driven, ESTJs often need to be alone to focus on their work. Some projects they need to complete alone, and they enthusiastically take to these tasks. In these situations, ESTJs are the farthest thing from being talkative.
ESTJs are also comfortable with silence. They understand that they can spend time with somebody without fulling every period of quiet with chatter. Often, this silence gives them time to plan or reflect on their duties.
However, ESTJs can be chatty. Furthermore, they’re also comfortable in crowds and new social situations. Their outgoing and confident personalities let them make friends easily.
Likewise, the Executive won’t shut up if they need to instruct others. An ESTJ will talk until they know their colleagues or social group understands what they want.
What Do ESTJs Like To Talk About?
As an ET (Extroverted Thinking) dominant function, Executives always have a plan or project they’re focused on perfecting. So, naturally, they’ll want to talk about that.
Similarly, ESTJs enjoy discussing their systems, too. This type appreciates details and history and is happy to trade stories and anecdotes, even with unfamiliar people.
They also enjoy talking about their past achievements. Not only do ESTJs take great pride in their previous successes, but they also believe that they show a meaningful way forward.
Executives also love giving advice and are willing to receive it. They appreciate a conversation where they can share essential faces and how-tos. Connecting through exchanging meaningful information is vital for them.
As well as that, ESTJs like to talk when the conversation has a goal. This type of natural teacher jumps at the opportunity to educate somebody. They love giving directions. Executives are rarely more talkative than when explaining how an organization works.
Executives also enjoy instructing others – giving orders. While they’re not egotistical, ESTJs nevertheless need to order their surroundings. So, they enjoy showing others what to do and how to do it.
After a project is over, ESTJs also want to share feedback. They see the group’s success as fundamental, so they want to improve and hear how others believe they can do so. Likewise, ESTJs also need to correct other people’s mistakes.
ESTJs also have a speculative side. They plan for the future.
So, an Executive is more than willing to discuss their upcoming plans, even over several years. The chances are good that they’ve mapped it all out already. And, even if they haven’t, they appreciate the opportunity to go through that process with another person.
Remember that ESTJs are pretty blunt, though. They don’t enjoy metaphors or idle speculation. In an ESTJ’s world, everything has a set purpose. The same applies to the conversation.
So, while ESTJs can be talkative, they’re not daydreamers. They prefer simple, concrete language and serious conversation. Executives don’t joke or play around when there’s work that needs finishing.
This trait especially applies to gossip. ESTJs don’t have time to spread rumors, which strongly goes against their moral code.
Last, if a conversation runs off-topic, don’t be surprised when an ESTJ steers it back to what they feel is most important. Likewise, they’re liable to get up and leave conversations that they feel are pointless or unhelpful. Sometimes, they’ll even call people out for talking that way.
Conclusion
To conclude, ESTJs like attention. However, they’re independently motivated and follow their schedule, regardless of what others notice. So, they don’t crave attention and won’t do anything that demands it from others.
Conversely, when they are the center of attention, ESTJs are chatty. They’ll take the opportunity to share their plans and discuss how to improve.
