In the personality community, you will often hear or read people talking about how boring ESTJs are. If you an ESTJ, you might also consider yourself boring because you probably have a routine and system for how you do things. The question is, are ESTJs genuinely boring, or is that how they are perceived?
ESTJs are labeled dull and seem to lead boring lives because they need and love routine. ESTJs follow a structure even with their hobbies and entertainment. They prefer it that way; however, others find it boring because they tend to avoid spontaneity and new experiences they are not used to.
ESTJs are not as boring as they seem or make themselves out to be. Society has simply accepted the more spontaneous extroverts who are loud, enthusiastic, and ready for any challenge. ESTJs are exciting and fun to be around if you truly get to know and spend time with them. We will understand why ESTJs seem boring more in-depth and why they are fun further in the article.
Are ESTJs Boring?
Doing brief research on whether ESTJs are boring or not will lead you only in one direction – that they are dull. When you study the personality type in-depth or get to know real people with the personality type, you will learn that they are not as boring as they seem and are exciting individuals in their own way.
To conclude that ESTJs are boring because of their personality functions and need for structure and routine is a stereotype. It is ironic to assume that because someone has things they are less likely to enjoy or do, like jump at the first opportunity of something new, they are boring when every person from every MBTI has some dull trait.
What one person may find exciting, another person may find uninteresting, and what one person finds boring, another may find fun. It depends on people individually; however, ESTJs are very organized and systemic beings, resulting in the conclusion that they cannot enjoy entertainment and pleasure.
Listed below are a few reasons why ESTJs are labeled as boring:
- ESTJs Are Logical
- ESTJs Like To Plan
- ESTJs Prefer Facts And Details
- ESTJs Are Leaders
- ESTJs Are Task-Orientated
In the following points, each of the above reasons will be described in detail:
ESTJs Are Logical
ESTJs are logical beings who make rational choices and find practical solutions. They have the T (Thinking) function, which is why they are not necessarily empathetic. Instead, they would find logical activities that make sense, have a purpose, and possibly a learning and serving experience. They are not fans of pointless tasks “just for fun” or entertainment without a purpose.
This can seem boring to others, especially other extroverts who are spontaneous and act on impulse through emotions instead of logic.
ESTJs Like To Plan
ESTJs are planners through and through. They need to have control of their time, energy, and situations, so they make sure to get all information necessary and plan each detail down to the last point. If they can plan and feel in control, they will be relaxed, have fun, and enjoy their time. If they are uncertain, or things don’t go as expected, they will be anxious and may want to avoid situations.
This is difficult for others to understand because most people can seamlessly “go with the flow” and allow things to unfold without worry. When people notice ESTJs being affected by uncertainty, they will often call them tedious and inflexible.
ESTJs Prefer Facts And Details
ESTJs have the S (Sensing) function, which allows them to focus on facts and details instead of idealism and concepts. They like to know every detail, understand why things are a certain way, and have rules to follow or provide to others. They will consider the reality of the present instead of dreaming about possibilities. ESTJs are goal-focused and action takers.
Being around someone like that can seem boring because they always seem so uptight and focused on the details instead of relaxing and enjoying the fun. Many people don’t realize that an ESTJ can only have fun if they feel secure about the details.
ESTJs Are Leaders
ESTJs are leaders, supervisors, and executives. They love to lead from the front and run a team. They enjoy bringing people together for a more significant cause. ESTJs love taking charge and being in control of delegating and assigning.
Most people dislike leaders because they focus on rules, systems, and work. They aim to control things and ensure everything goes according to plan. It can seem like a boring trait because the typical person would prefer to have freedom and spontaneity.
ESTJs Are Task-Orientated
ESTJs are task-orientated and action takers. That means once they set their mind on something, they will be focused on seeing it through instead of taking a detour or being lenient and doing something different.
It is another reason people misunderstand ESTJs and stereotype them because someone who is highly focused on work or following through on a project until it is done is seen as uninteresting. Once ESTJs have completed their work and don’t have a to-do list in the back of their mind, they can genuinely have fun and join the entertainment.
What Do ESTJs Do For Fun?
Contrary to the stereotype, ESTJs are fascinating people who not only know how to have fun but can create enjoyment for others. Understanding how they function and getting to know them better is necessary to witness their exciting personality.
Here are some things that ESTJs do for fun:
- They are involved in clubs and institutions.
- ESTJs love home-based projects.
- They find great joy in playing and watching sports.
- ESTJs enjoy board games.
- Outdoor activities excite ESTJs.
- They appreciate mingling in social interactions.
The ESTJ pretty much loves and enjoys any activity that most others also take an interest in. they simply require to have a plan. They need to know all the details about their interactions like time, theme, and guest list. ESTJs appreciate games with rules like board games and tasks with a point like gardening or home projects.
ESTJs don’t appreciate if you bombard them with plans or expect them to act without processing and making arrangements (even if it is mentally) first. They are fun and humorous in social gatherings and can easily be the ones to initiate some entertainment, but if they don’t expect something or plan for it, their mood will be spoilt.
Conclusion
ESTJs are not as boring as they seem. They love routine and structure, and they are logical beings which can cause others to think they don’t know how to have fun. Once you genuinely understand and get to know ESTJ, you will realize they are pretty exciting and can be funny and entertaining.
