Did you know that your personality type will impact how good you are in bed? An INTP, for instance, is very open to trying new things. An ISFJ is much more conservative, but what about ESFJs? Are ESFJs good in bed?
ESFJs are known for being brilliant in bed. One of the core attributes of an ESFJ is their desire to please others, often at their own expense. So, when they’re in bed, they often go all-out in ensuring that every desire of their sexual partner is well and truly fulfilled.
Let’s explain that while ESFJs are not necessarily known for being the best personality type in bed (ESFPs are), ESJFs can offer a fantastic experience and one that you’ll want to go back for repeatedly.
What Is an ESFJs Sexual Energy Like?
ESFJs are all about pleasing their lover. After all, an ESFJ has a deep desire to be liked by as many people as possible. So, an ESFJ will often try to match the sexual energy of their partner. If their partner loves all-out sex that is packed to the brim with passion, an ESFJ will do that. If their partner loves the more sensual approach to lovemaking, an ESFJ will try to match that sexual energy.
What Are ESFJs Like in Bed?
Obviously, everybody is going to act differently in bed. Your personality type is not the only thing that will impact your lovemaking (your experience and how you feel about your partner will play a role). However, there are some attributes that you can expect from almost all ESFJs that make them excellent lovers between the sheets.
Very Giving
If you know the ESFJ personality type well, then you’ll know that ESFJs have a desire to please other people. An ESFJ is only ever happy when they are putting a smile on somebody else’s face, and that is going to apply to sex too.
ESFJs are very giving lovers. They are known for giving their partners huge amounts of pleasure. An ESFJ will pay careful attention to what their partner likes/doesn’t like, and always strives to give their partner everything that they want.
In bed, you’ll often find that an ESFJ doesn’t really get pleasure themselves. At least during foreplay. They’d much rather lay their partner back, and pleasure them in all sorts of ways.
If you are in bed with an ESFJ, then you should know that you are always going to be the center of attention for them.
Open Minded
In a bid to give their partner everything they could possibly want, an ESFJ is very open-minded in bed.
An ESFJ is willing to experiment with all sorts of kinks, so if you have something that you want to try out, then feel free to suggest it to your ESFJ. They’ll probably say yes.
This is something that does have a major drawback, though. An ESFJ will often say yes to something that they really don’t want to do. That’s their desire to please coming through. So, if you are suggesting something new to your ESFJ, make sure that they are happy with whatever is happening. Let them know that they really don’t have to do something that they don’t want to do.
Very Attentive (Especially After Sex)
ESFJs love to learn more about their partners. Again, this is through a deep desire to please whoever they are with.
Expect an ESFJ to give you a lot of cuddling after sex. They may even talk about sex quite a bit. This is all through their desire to understand what you liked and didn’t like. They need to know if they pleased you. If they didn’t, they’ll take it personally…but they’ll do their best to try and make things better the next time.
Rest assured that if your ESFJ is asking you any question about sex, it is through a desire to please you even more than ever. Keep sleeping with an ESFJ, and sex will always get better with them. You’ll rarely have a non-passionate sex session with an attentive ESFJ lover.
They Prefer More Sensual Lovemaking
While an ESFJ will always try and please their partner in the way their partner wants, the ESFJ will also have their own needs when it comes to sex.
ESFJs crave that deep connection with the people they care about. When it comes to sex, this often means that the ESFJ is a huge fan of the more sensual lovemaking. When an ESFJ is told that they can do whatever they want, you’ll often find that the ESFJ is a fan of the long, drawn-out foreplay. It’ll start with a lot of cuddling, kissing, and a lot of touching. It may even take hours to get to the actual sex part.
They Don’t Just Sleep With Anybody
It is worth noting that a lot of the passion in bed with an ESFJ comes from the fact that an ESFJ won’t just sleep with anybody. ESFJs absolutely hate one-night stands (as they hate the rejection afterward). If they are sleeping with somebody, then it means that they genuinely care about that person. It isn’t a one-time thing. It is something that will likely end up happening a lot.
Because the ESFJ really cares about who they are sleeping with, this passion starts to creep into the sex. You can feel the raw emotion. If you have ever had sex when two people are crazily into one another, then you’ll know just how great this feels.
Final Thoughts
ESFJs are known for being tremendous in bed. This is because they are often very in touch with their partner’s needs, and they are not afraid to adapt their techniques to ensure that their partner has the best sex possible.
ESFJs are often very sensual lovers, but they are not afraid to change their sexual energy if thier partner demands it. In fact, ESFJs are so likely to change their sexual energy up that you’ll often find that they are into far kinkier stuff than the average person. If their partner suggests trying something new in bed, the ESFJ will probably try it out.
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