We all have different personalities, and even though there are groupings, there are often distinctions between those in the same category. However, specific behavioral patterns and elements of their nature and character can be observed when looking at any particular personality type, such as the ENFJ. So we want to look at what makes the ENFJ so charming.
ENFJs are attractive to people as they are warm, engaging, authentic, and enjoy being sociable. Apart from being charming, they are naturally charismatic and ooze genuine care and compassion for others while also being good candidates for leaders. They are encouraging and supportive.
The personality model we are examining is the Myers-Briggs one. It helps us to differentiate between 16 varying personality types and offers us an idea of what people are like according to the test. Now that we have a rough idea of what makes the ENFJ personality so charming, we can look deeper into specific reasons why this is the case and what they possess, so be sure to read on.
Breaking Down The Aspects Of An ENFJ
Beyond what we have spoken about, there are many reasons why the ENFJ personality proves to be immensely charming, and if you know anyone who is an ENFJ (or are one yourself), then you will agree with the reasons we offer below. They have some incredibly outstanding qualities that cannot go unnoticed; however, perhaps their charm has masked your ability to see these in them.
1. ENFJs Are Born Leaders
This personality type encompasses people with the skills and traits to lead others, and this is often seen as an attractive component in people; it allows them to stand out from others. Additionally, unlike other personalities that may try to force their way into leading people, ENFJs merely fit into this role so sleekly and elegantly.
They are also the type of movers and shakers who can get the ball rolling, especially when change needs to occur, and nobody else knows which direction to take or how to guide others. The ENFJ has a natural ability to influence others, whereas other personalities may struggle endlessly to get others to be swayed to follow their lead or example.
2. ENFJs Express Themselves Clearly And With Ease
Other humans tend to appreciate those who express their feelings effectively and convey why they are in a particular state at the current time. Certain other personalities struggle to express their love, sadness, irritation, gladness, and so on. However, the ENFJ can easily state their feelings and explain the reasoning behind this in a way others can comprehend.
In modern society, where things are so rushed, it may feel like your life is merely a conveyer belt where you tick the right boxes, smile when you have to, hide your actual feelings, and pretend that you can cope with everything; the ENFJ realizes otherwise. It is far better to communicate with others about how we truly feel as this helps avoid confusion, misinterpretation, and the like.
3. ENFJs Are Capable Of Empathy
Seeing things from other people’s perspectives and going out of your way to put yourself in their shoes and understanding, instead of immediately making assumptions, jumping to conclusions, or judging others outright, is another reason why people find ENFJs charming. They care about and can empathize with what other people are feeling or conveying.
It is self-evident that a vast majority of society can be blunt, unfeeling, and rude. But the ENFJs are a special breed who make others feel heard and understood. For example, if someone is angry, they do not retaliate; instead, they show concern. This is a valuable tool, as so many people will jump the gun and not worry about what others are feeling or going through.
4. ENFJs Are Altruistic
This personality type, as you may be picking up on already, typically always have good motives and intentions behind what they think of others and how they behave, conduct themselves, and carry themselves regardless of their role in life. When they affix their gaze upon setting out to do something, it will likely be for the benefit of others.
People notice the difference in ENFJs and recognize that they are good people with others’ best at heart. This leads people to see their actions as truth-filled and pure; this is in stark contrast to what we expect others to do, and so this characteristic makes them more charming and attractive. This is in contrast to many who are selfish in their motives and are self-obsessed.
5. ENFJs Are Patient And Tolerant
Patience is not something that all people possess, and it can be strange for others to discover just how patient ENFJs can be and how willing they are to remain calm and collected regardless of how tense and frustrated others may get. This goes for interacting with people and how they approach work. For example, if they have to train a new employee or tackle a tricky task.
They are also the sort who are tolerant of people and their differences; they understand that people are not formed from cookie cutters and that they need to approach different types of people in creative ways. They are also typically more likely to forgive others, but this is not an aspect of their personalities that should be abused, especially seeing that they try to see the best in others.
6. ENFJs Are Highly Reliable People
If you want someone you can depend on; then the ENFJ is the type of person you should be looking for, especially when hiring people or promoting individuals into leadership positions. The reason this is something that makes them charming is that they will rarely disappoint others, and they are the type to keep their word.
They are the ones who are happy to lend a helping hand, especially in times that are difficult and trying; they will go the extra mile for people and are dependable. Therefore, if you engage with an ENFJ in times of strife, you will find that they do not merely lend a hand here and there but are more than likely to jump in and help see you through the process, and this is an attractive trait.
7. ENFJs Are Loyal People
Commitment and loyalty are two everyday things seemingly disappearing in modern society; however, ENFJs are bright lanterns of hope that show others that being loyal and committed are precious traits to possess. These are things they incorporate into all of their relationships, particularly when it comes to friends and family.
It is something they do not need to be taught the importance of; instead, it occurs naturally and is an organic component of their makeup. This is a highly desirable trait to look for if you are searching for people to work in your company, and if you are hoping to find romance, an ENFJ will not let you down, and this is something incredibly attractive and charming about them.
8. ENFJs Are Sociable And Charismatic
They are highly social people, and they are usually the sort of individuals who are popular, as people find these traits immensely charming and welcoming. Their communication skills (as with their ability to express emotion) are polished. They can read a room and approach situations with the appropriate tone and manner without being overpowered by other personality types.
Why Are ENFJs So Charming And Charismatic?
The ENFJ would likely be the protagonist in a novel or movie, and this is because they have radiant personalities which make them stand out from the crowd. They are passionate individuals, and their level of charisma (that oozes from them) is intoxicating to others. They often take the lead, inspiring and influencing people while showing patience and empathy.
As mentioned earlier, this personality type only accounts for 2%-3% of the population, making them a special breed. They are far more sociable than others and can engage with different types of people, and due to their high EQs, they make great leaders and may often even fill roles such as politicians, CEOs, and even presidents.
They can speak confidently in front of many people and be trusted to speak the truth and be honest with others. They are patient, loyal, and immensely reliable people who are sure to get the job done, regardless of the strain it takes on them. This is why people respect them and find them to be charming and charismatic.
Why Are People Attracted To ENFJs?
People are attracted to ENFJs because they have some remarkable personality traits that many others do not share. They are people who will go out of their way to make you feel like a priority and invest time and energy into you and your relationship. They will also be your biggest fans and supporters, encouraging you to reach for and achieve your dreams.
They are also the type of people who prioritize people above all else and will be there for you whenever you need them. If you are stuck on the roadside in the middle of the night and need help, they are the ones to call upon, as they will come to your aid.
They also stand up for others, do not enjoy conflict, and resent it when others belittle and bully others, as this is not how they conduct themselves or believe the world ought to either. They are immensely protective of those close to them and will not only defend you in terms of your honor but are often willing to place themselves in physical danger for those they love.
They are charming and charismatic and do well one-on-one, but they are also crowd pleasers. They have excellent communication skills and are sensitive souls who can pick up on the moods and emotions of others and have a natural ability to approach people accordingly. Ultimately, they can converse and convey things to an array of people from different walks of life.
They are the sort who go out of their way to make the world around them a better place for those in their environments. They look for the good in people and hope to foster that and motivate them to do good. They do not come with ulterior motives but are genuine, sincere, reliable, and loyal to others. With all this, who would not be attracted to them?
How ENFJs Fair In Romantic Relationships
When looking for a partner, ENFJs will strive to find someone who will afford them a strong and trust-filled relationship. Thankfully, because they are highly intuitive and can read people’s moods, emotions, and feelings, they will quickly pick up on any changes in mood or atmosphere between themselves and the potential partner and adjust the interaction accordingly.
Something that will attract the other individual (as discussed) is that the ENFJ will be inexhaustible in their attempts to commit themselves to the interaction and ensure that the person feels heard, appreciated, and acknowledged.
Once in a relationship, the ENFJ will most likely find happiness in times when their partner is content; this brings them great joy and pleasure. They feel fulfilled by this and hope to encourage and ensure the growth of the person in question. In a relationship with such an individual, expect them to desire to help you and encourage them not to neglect their goals and dreams.
One incredible bonus, which some may not appreciate (as certain personalities strangely enjoy friction), is that ENFJs rarely allow conflict to arise in their romantic relationships. This is primarily due to their being shy of conflict and preference for harmony in the relationship. They can sense displeasure on their partner’s side and will try to douse the flames.
Areas Of Weakness For The ENFJ
Despite this personality type possessing many advantageous traits, they struggle with particular weak points. One of the main issues is that they will likely get too emotionally invested in situations or relationships, as well as the issues of others. Additionally, they sometimes overstep boundaries, even with good intent, and sometimes push people into action when they are not ready.
1. They Can Be Too Sensitive
ENFJs take people rather seriously, and relationships are a vital part of their existence; however, one thing they might at times take too much to heart is criticism. They ultimately feel that if they do not solve all the issues and problems related to the remarks, they have failed and perceive themselves as such. What they need to realize is that sometimes they cannot fix everything.
2. Self-Esteem Issues
ENFJs define themselves according to relatively high and stringent standards; their self-esteem is affected if they cannot live up to them. Thus causing serious insecurities to manifest, and they then try to seek out external validation. They become fixated on bettering and improving themselves, and if they have suffered failure or defeat, they find it difficult to cope.
3. They Take On Other People’s Problems
These things mentioned are typically rather noble but can be detrimental to the ENFJ. They will often try to take on other people’s issues and burdens, and in doing this, they try so hard to find solutions, but in the end, they may simply be unable to correct the problem. They end up feeling immensely bad, which is why it is good to care for others, but know your limits.
Conclusion
ENFJs comprise a small percentage of the global population, likely sitting at 2%-3% of people. They use numerous unique traits to aid others and help them grow. They do have weaknesses, as all other personality types do, but they have the chance to share their wonderful qualities with others, often by leading, encouraging, supporting, and engaging authentically.
