ESTPs make up 4% of the general population. Who are these people? They represent one of the sixteen Myers-Briggs personality types and have very big personalities indeed! The abbreviation stands for Extroverted, Sensing, Thinking, And Perceiving. Some people love to get reactions out of others, so let’s see what we should never say to ESTPs and why. Or what will get a rise out of them!
ESTPs, being extroverts, get their energy from being around other people. They are tuned into what’s happening around them. They are not easily offended. Being boxed in, quiet, and obeying authority goes against their nature. ESTPs are logical and practical, focusing on facts rather than feelings.
ESTPs are outgoing, talk a lot, and are energetic. They love to be the center of attention and can be persuasive and charming. ESTPs can also be impulsive, impatient, insensitive, and don’t plan well. There are things we should never say to these larger-than-life personalities. Read on to find out what they are.
25 Things You Must Never Say To ESTPs
ESTPs don’t get offended easily, but they aren’t made of stone and will sometimes also be hurt or take offense from some situations. Other times they might not take offense but give the opposite reaction to your intentions. Here’s a list of what not to say to an ESTP.
1. Take Some Time On To Be Your Own To Recharge
Being alone for too long can seem like a punishment more than a blessing to an ESTP. They get energy from being around people and are always on the lookout for something new and exciting to do. They often get antsy if they have to sit still for too long.
2. You Won’t Get It Right Or You Can’t Do It
ESTPs are very confident in their own abilities. They are dexterous and quickly process the information they’ve absorbed using their senses. They can quickly solve problems that may arise from their lack of planning. Telling them they’re incapable is more insulting than taking a crack at their character or appearance.
3. Where Do You See Yourself In 5 Years
ESTPs are action-oriented. They are boisterous, active, always on the move, and focus on the here-and-now. Abstract, philosophical thinking, and being forced to plan something further into the future than this afternoon irritates ESTJs. They think and make decisions on the fly and improvise as they go along.
4. You May Not
ESTPs can be pretty defiant on occasion. They don’t like to be bound by a set of rules and will often ignore them, often making a point of breaking them!
5. Slow Down
ESTPs live fast-paced lives and tend to make snap decisions. They don’t have much patience with those who don’t keep up or take longer to understand their stand or ideas.
6. Sit Quietly And Don’t Interrupt
ESTPs are loud and dynamic. They always have opinions and ideas and are bold, energetic, and active. They don’t like to sit quietly and listen to lectures because they are action-oriented.
7. It’s Too Dangerous Or Risky
ESTPs tend to be daredevils. Their need to keep things fresh and exciting often causes them to take unnecessary risks. Telling them to be careful may get them to be extra-risky!
8. We Will Be Together Forever
ESTPs get bored quickly, and this often includes in relationships. They enjoy being in love, and while there’s a spark, the relationship is full of fun and surprises. But they don’t spend time dreaming of their wedding day. They will not be pressured into marriage or serious relationships before they are ready.
9. Take Life More Seriously
Although they know that life isn’t just fun, they don’t enjoy people telling them to be more serious. That means “less fun,” and they always approach life with a hefty dose of humor and a spirit of adventure.
10. Keep It A Secret
Under certain circumstances, ESTPs can keep secrets, e.g., if a close relationship depends on them not divulging confidential information. But they love to have fun, are not generally sensitive to the feelings of others, and may just “let it slip” if the moment demands an illustration.
11. Think It Through
ESTPs don’t enjoy analyzing a scenario from every angle before embarking on a course of action. They improvise and fix problems along the way that have arisen because of their lack of planning!
12. This Is A Long-Term Project
ESTPs always look for something fresh and new because they get bored quickly. Long-term projects are not for them!
13. Let’s Talk About Feelings
ESTPs prefer to speak about logical and practical things. They don’t like to discuss their feelings or those of others.
14. There Is Only One Way To Do The Job
ESTPs don’t like to be boxed in. They don’t respond well to being told there is only one way to do the job. They are innovative and want to experiment with fresh ideas.
15. Do What You’re Told
ESTPs don’t like to be micromanaged. When we start our first jobs, we all start at the bottom, which is difficult for ESTPs. They become bored and frustrated if they cannot use their creativity and improvisation.
16. Whatever!
ESTPs don’t appreciate passive-aggressive responses. It’s far better to be direct when you’re unhappy with them.
17. I Could Care Less
The grammar is poor, and it’s a meaningless phrase. ESTPs appreciate correct grammar. Avoid saying pointless things to them.
18. Here’s A Schedule For The Week
ESTPs are very independent people and prefer to manage their time and activities in their own way.
19. I Will Follow My Heart
ESTPs don’t account for feelings when making a decision. They trust their experience and logic above their feelings or anyone else’s.
20. Consider The Consequences
ESTPs come up with a plan, action it, and then deal with the after-effects if and when they happen. This goes hand-in-hand with their risk-taking nature.
21. I’m Fine, Or Nothing Is Wrong
ESTPs pick up on subtle cues from facial expressions and body language, and they will know when you are not telling the truth.
22. It’s My Way Or The Highway
If you give an ESTP an ultimatum, they will seldom do what you want.
23. Listen To What I’m Saying
Because of their lack of interest in feelings and impatience, ESTPs never want to spend time understanding explanations. They hear what they think the person is saying and move on.
24. Let’s Discuss This Theory Or Concept
They are practical and don’t enjoy the abstract side of life. By the time you have said that sentence, their minds have already fled elsewhere.
25. Be More Diplomatic
ESTPs don’t believe in sugar-coating their words. They don’t intentionally hurt people but can be tactless when blurting out something they feel needs to be said.
Conclusion
ESTPs boogie to the beat of their own drum, seldom answering to anyone if they have the choice. They rarely have a well-thought-out plan but tend to wing it. Strangely, this “strategy” often works for them in business and relationships.
ESTPs are loud, boisterous, action-oriented, and fun. Though some of these traits sound downright irritating, ESTPs are often popular because of their charisma. Though there are plenty of things you should perhaps not say to ESTPs, they forgive easily and are not easily offended.
