INFJs are not the easiest personality types to read. INFJs are wonderful people but can give mixed signals and are pretty complex individuals to understand. You might think they like you one minute and the next moment make you feel like you have misread the situation entirely.
Here are 13 signs that an INFJ likes you:
- They will make an effort to spend time with you.
- They will choose to stay close to you.
- They will show facial expressions.
- They show frequent physical affection.
- They will open up to you.
- They buy you gifts.
- They send you songs or memes that remind them of you.
- They will stay in contact with you.
- They will tell you directly.
- They take a deep interest in your life.
- They will drop everything to help and prioritize you.
- They will be nervous and clumsy.
- They talk about you to others.
1. INFJs Will Make An Effort To Spend Time With You
If an INFJ like you, they will put in the effort to spend time with you, especially if they think you might like them back. INFJs are major introverts who prefer spending time alone instead of interacting with others. They appreciate genuine connections and are excellent at building them, so if they like and feel connected to you, they will make the time and effort to see more of you.
An INFJ will typically avoid interactions and social settings, but if they like you, they will make a point to be wherever you are so they can get more time to talk to you or engage in fun activities together.
2. INFJs Will Choose To Stay Close To You
An INFJ who likes you will try their best to stay close to you without making it seem obvious or awkward. They will find a way to be in the same place you are, hoping to get closer to you. In social situations, it doesn’t matter how many others are there; they will want to be near you.
If you are at a party, INFJs will find a way to sit close to you. If you are at the bar, they will make an excuse of needing a drink even if they don’t want one. If you are talking to someone else, they will figure out how to add to the conversation. As long as they are close to you, they get to be around you and spend time with you. If an INFJ does that, it signifies they like you.
3. INFJs Show Engaging Facial Expressions If They Like You
If you have ever interacted with an INFJ, you know it is incredibly challenging to read them. You never really know if they follow what you say or approve of your connection. You probably won’t be able to tell if they agree or disagree or are happy or annoyed. Their facial expressions and body language are highly neutral at all times.
INFJs avoid showing their feelings and interest or lack thereof to protect themselves from judgment, rejection, or even hurting and disappointing others. If an INFJ genuinely likes you and feels a connection, they will not hesitate to show it through their facial expressions. They will smile wider, pop their eyes bigger, engage with head movements, etc. They show genuine interest during interactions.
4. INFJs Show Frequent Physical Affection
INFJs are not ones to easily show others affection of any sort. They hold back their emotions and are highly protective of their personal space. They don’t like others getting too close to them and will keep their distance from others. If an INFJ genuinely likes you, the situation will be quite the opposite.
INFJs that like you will allow you to touch their shoulder, put their hand on yours, or give you a little nudge when something is funny. They will probably hug you a little tighter or longer than others. INFJs will sit closer to you, touch your face or hold your hand if they are interested in you. iNFJs only do these things to people they feel comfortable and safe around.
5. INFJs Will Open Up To You When They Like You
INFJs are not only protective of their personal physical space but also their emotional space. They don’t open up about their feelings or reveal information about their lives to anyone. They must feel a genuine connection to you and not fear that you will judge them. That will allow them to feel safe sharing details about themselves.
INFJs feel comfortable telling you things they otherwise would never say to another soul. If an INFJ gets personal with you about their emotions and life details, it means they like you and want you to be interested in them. They will share things about their life, family, and dreams. Once they can trust you, they will even express their deep emotions about people and situations.
6. INFJs Will Buy You Gifts If They Like You
If an INFJ like you, they will buy you unique gifts. The gifts will be something special and often pretty personal to the bond you share. It will remind them of you or something they know you love. INFJs are super thoughtful and caring, and if they like you, they will want to gift you the world.
Gifts from INFJs could be a cake they bake for you or an activity they planned for you to spend time with. They will make an extra effort to make it as memorable as possible, so you can feel like they know you when you get the gift. It is also a way INFJs show that they want you to do the same for them if they are interested in building a relationship with you.
7. INFJs Send You Songs Or Memes That Remind Them Of You
A unique way of showing someone love and affection that is often taken for granted, and something that INFJs are highly fond of doing, is showing someone they like by little reminders through music and art. If they create a playlist or share a song with you, they want you to know that they are thinking of you or that a specific song reminds them of you.
In current social media times, many people, including INFJs, will share memes, gifs, or any fun content that might relate to your relationship, something you have been through together, or an inside joke you share. It is the INFJs way to show you that they are paying attention and think of you often, hoping to remind you of them.
8. INFJs Will Stay In Contact With You
The introvert function in INFJs can cause them to be entirely disconnected from others. They do not keep in touch with others as often as they should or would like to. They tend to avoid texts, calls, and interactions because they prefer keeping their thoughts to themselves and processing information and feelings alone. An INFJ who likes you will not avoid or stay away for too long.
INFJs interested in building a deeper bond with you will make it a point to text you, call, or make plans to meet up. They will probably try to keep it casual if things are new, but you can pick it up because they won’t take time to reply and will allow conversations to continue for lengthy periods. INFJs become exhausted interacting with people, but if they like you, it fuels their energy.
9. INFJs Will Tell You Directly That They Are Interested
INFJs that like you will often be direct about it. Instead of through signs, they will voice their feelings or make a big gesture that will make it quite clear they are interested in building a deeper connection with you. It is mostly older, emotionally aware, and mentally mature INFJs that will be able to do that. They will take the step by explaining their feelings because they don’t want to waste any time.
If you want INFJs to be direct with how they feel about you, you must also be clear about your intentions. INFJs do not like games and uncertainty. If they think you are hesitant, they will withdraw as a means of self-protection. If you show them genuine interest or voice your feelings, they are most likely to do the same.
10. INFJs Take A Deep Interest In Your Life
INFJs are highly curious people, but they are not fans of small talk. If they like you, they will want to learn more about you, even if it means through small talk. INFJs will ask questions that can get personal, and they will want to know every detail about your life, what you love, what makes you happy or sad, and what your dreams are.
Taking an interest in someone’s life is a significant sign for an INFJ because they tend to be very neutral around people. They are cautious about the information they absorb. They do like learning about others but will not force conversations. If they like you, they will continue asking more questions and try to understand every aspect of your life.
11. INFJs Will Drop Everything To Help And Prioritize You
If an INFJ is interested in you, they will be highly loyal to you. INFJs will prioritize you and your needs before anyone else, even their own. They will also prioritize their time with you, even if it means letting others down. INFJs who like you will do everything they can to help you whether you ask.
If you ask them for help with something, they will run to assist you. If you don’t ask an INFJ for anything, they will offer to help you or take the initiative to help you anyway. INFJs are super loving and care deeply about those close to them, so if they know you need them, they will not hesitate to be there for you in every way possible.
12. INFJs Will Be Nervous And Clumsy Around You
An INFJ who likes or is attracted to you will often be nervous around you, especially if the connection is new. They can get quite clumsy, even with their words. They might blurt out the wrong answer or mentions a wrong name only because they can’t think straight around you. They often make silly mistakes and embarrass themselves in front of you.
This act of INFJs can be pretty cute, but sometimes it makes them look stupid. INFJs are super intelligent and dislike when that happens, so they will go out of their way to make it up to you afterward. INFJs are also not big talkers. They are observers, and being nervous around someone they like can make them chatty, resulting in oversharing or saying all the wrong things.
13. INFJs Will Talk About You To Others
As mentioned in the previous point, INFJs are not big talkers. They prefer to sit back and observe. They process their feelings alone and prefer keeping their thoughts to themselves. But INFJs who like you, especially if they like you a lot, will often talk about you to others. They will try their best not to make it evident to others that they like you, but can’t help that they want to mention you all the time.
Sometimes INFJs who like you will talk about you to someone with the hopes of that person mentioning it to you. INFJs want you to know that they are talking about you, hoping you will realize that they are saying good things about you and figure out that they like you. They might even get someone to drop a few hints for them.
Conclusion
If you are ever confused about whether an INFJ likes you or not, you can stop wondering and start noticing all the signs mentioned above. INFJs are very private people and will only do the mentioned things if they genuinely like you and feel they can build a solid connection with you.
